by Amy Marienblaume | Instagram
Double double toil and trouble…. Eye of newt, toe of frog, wing of bat, tongue of dog… Twist the bones and bend the back…
Well, not exactly. But I think every witch can admit that at some point we all envisioned ourselves saying things like this while dancing around a cauldron.
Spellcasting as a new witch can be a bit intimidating. There is so much to consider – herbs, flowers, crystals, moon cycle, zodiac cycle, time of day, day of the week, deities to invoke, elements with which to work, and on, and on. It’s easy to feel lost amongst all the correspondences. If you’re a person who likes options, then this may be your jam – but if you’re more like me and appreciate a clear-cut path with rules and order, then you might feel completely out of your element.
If you’ve purchased any book written for new witches, many of them have pre-crafted spells that are easily accessible and well thought-out. These are great options for any witch, but I have always liked to do things the hard way from the very beginning.
Cutting Ties with Magick
The first spell I wrote wasn’t really a spell per se; it was more of an incantation I speak over my son at bedtime for protection through the night. It has evolved throughout my practice, but I still speak it every night. I also wrote one to heal his boo-boos when I kiss them better, but that’s a story for another day.
In late winter this year, I had finally come to terms with the fact that someone I thought was a good friend of mine had been lying to me for some time. Faking pregnancies and then having “miscarriages” (which if you read Chapter 4, you can imagine how hurtful it was for me to find this out), but the final straw came when she faked a case of COVID. Texting me from the hospital where she was being tested, telling me she couldn’t speak she was coughing so hard, posting on social media that she was heartbroken listening to her young sons cry out for mommy while she was isolating. Miraculously, the test came back negative in less than 24 hours (in Canada it takes 3 days on average to get your results, sometimes longer, and you are required to self-isolate during this time). When she video called me, she had somehow fully recovered from being on death’s door less than a day before, and the social media post about being tested had vanished. I was beyond done. I wasn’t interested in having a long-drawn out discussion about why I was ending the friendship, I just wanted to move on. I set about trying to find a spell that I felt was strong enough to banish someone so toxic. I looked through the books I had, and I searched the internet, but nothing really resonated with me. So, I set about writing my own spell instead.
Crafting my Spells
Since embracing myself as a witch, I’ve written my own spells almost exclusively. Writing is a hugely creative outlet for me and has become a big part of my craft. When I need to craft a spell, I first set my intentions for what I want to accomplish. From there, I begin to hear one or two lines of the finished product inside myself, or sometimes on the wind if I’m outdoors. From there, I call in the rest of what I need to say and refine until it feels right. Once I have the words in place, I build in the actions – will I be burning something? Mixing things together? Anointing candles? Creating a sigil? What kind of meditations will I incorporate? By the time I’ve decided what correspondences I want to utilize, and am ready to actually perform my spell, I can feel the power behind it swelling up inside me – just waiting to be released.
As part of this particular spell, I had planned to tie a photo of myself and a photo of the other person together. I would burn the tie and then burn her photo. However, I was a bit lost on what I should do with the photo of myself. Burning my own photo didn’t quite sit right with me. Part of having a community of witches around you means that you have people to turn to when you feel stuck. I reached out to my friend, Meg Rosenbriar, and she offered some great options for what I could do with my photo that didn’t involve burning it, but still accomplished the goal of my spell.
What Do I Do with This Now, and do I Actually Need All These Tools?
One of the things I’ve heard over and over from new witches is that they’ve completed a spell but don’t know what to do with what’s left behind. I, too, wasn’t sure what to do with my spell remnants when I first started practicing. Like all magickal things, it really comes down to intention. For spells that are meant to banish, repel, or remove, I usually flush down the toilet or send them downstream (please make sure that whatever you’re putting into the environment or your local municipal water source will not cause harm). For spells that are meant to bring abundance, or otherwise grow or increase things in my life, I have been burying in my garden. Lastly, remember that ashes are great to use in the creation of black or grey salt. Regardless of what you choose to do with your spell, ensure that it serves your intentions and feels right to you.
If you’re a new witch, or one who isn’t able to be open about your practice at home, take comfort in the fact that you don’t need to use any of the correspondences or tools that I’ve mentioned above to cast your spell. All you need is your intention and your words. You can release the things that no longer serve you by simply writing them on a piece of toilet paper and flushing it down the toilet. Your spell can be just as powerful and just as effective as if you had all sorts of magickal tools at your disposal – and ultimately anything can be a magickal tool when you add your intention to it.
You’re probably wondering what happened to my “friend.” I’m happy to report that she is long behind me and my spell has done its job. I don’t miss having her in my life and feel much lighter without her. With that said, it’s important to remember that magick happens when intention meets action, so I did take the step of blocking her from having the ability to contact me.
While I am typically an open book, I have chosen not to share the spell publicly. However, if you need to remove someone toxic from your life, I’m happy to share it with you. Leave a comment below, or DM me on Instagram. We all need a little less toxicity in our lives.
About the Author: Amy is a newly re-awakened witch living in South-Western Ontario. As a Scorpio sun, Pisces moon, and Scorpio rising, she can be found reading and recharging in the bath when she’s not chasing after her almost-five-year-old Leo son she is raising with her Sagittarius husband. Professionally, as a Human Resources Business Partner, Amy brings her magic into the office by guiding the rest of the team to build self-awareness, compassion, and empathy with the goal of creating a more harmonious and enchanted workplace. You can find her on Instagram at @thewakenedwitch, where she shares her journey into owning the identity of Witch.